It gets a little scary sometimes – is my mind starting to go? Is this what it is like to get older? I read once that being forgetful as we age is really due to the fact that we have so much more stuff stored in our brains it just takes longer for us to find it. I really like that explanation.
More importantly than forgetting things, I am really talking about how we drift through our day without conscious thought. How much of this do you do?
- interact with a someone is a store without making eye contact?
- have a phone call while checking your email?
- checking your text messages when having lunch with someone?
- making decisions with thinking through the consequences?
Sometimes we barely register what the other person is saying on a phone call – our voice tones really reflect our lack of engagement. We unconsciously treat wait-staff like they barely exist. We give them an order, don’t look up, and then when we need something, can’t even remember what they look like!
We make fast decisions because we are just too overwhelmed to spend the time to think through them. A wise mentor of mine once told me to always think through the outcome of the outcome. If I make this decision, whom and what else will be affected? It is a really powerful question to ask yourself. It always produces better answers and decisions. This is an immediate way to get out of auto-pilot.
When we drift through our lives, not only do we miss out on truly being connected, but others miss out as well. How does your indifferent voice tones or lack of human connection affect the other human being you are involved with, even if that connection is only for a few minutes? Are you telling them they don’t have much value to you, or that you are more important than they are? Is that your intent? If not, stay awake.
Our voice and body language have tremendous effects – and it only takes the same amount of
energy to really engage as it does to be indifferent. Watch and listen for how people react to
you. Your message gets reflected back. Be aware of the feedback so that you can be alive
every single day.
Live this week in full awareness, not in a trance. You can give the gift of yourself every time you come in contact with others. Be fully aware of your output, your behavior, your energy. Make sure what you are giving others is the best that you can do and the best that you can be. This is also the ultimate gift to yourself.
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